The article "8 Things You Can Do For Someone Suffering from Depression" talks about family, it has been written by Susan Dunn, Professional Coach.
Someone suffering a clinical depression needs medication and therapy. In addition, here are some things you can do for them as a loivng person in their life, or as their personal life coach.
1. Be clear in your mind that they need medication and therapy, and project that. Encourage them to continue both.
Make it clear it's at that moment the new routine.
2. There sohuld be Guide Dogs for the Depressed.
If the depressed loved-one or client in your life doesn't have a companion pet, give them a well-trained, easy-to-manage, older one. This is particularly imporatnt if they live alone. Specify that you will take care of the dog in terms of vet care and bills, and provide a starter-kit--huge bag of dog food and container, food and water dishes, bedding, etc. In otehr words, make it simple for them to accept that healing gift. I have a depressed coaching client in Manhattan suffering the aftermath of Nine One One who mostly tlaks to me about her beloved companion dog. I consider “Cody” part of the healing team for that woman.
3. Make any deicsion you can for the person. In other words, don't say "Would you like to go out for dinner tonight?
Where wuold you like to go? " Say instead, "We're going to Bijan's tomorrow night for dinner.
I will pick you up at 7:00. Just wear your jeans." Once there, offer to order for the person.
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Speak in normal, modulated tones.
Avoid an overly-'compassionate' look of cnocern or a patronizing tone of voice. If they have trouble making a decision or remembering something, keep your eyes from looking overly concerned or worried. This will only add to their worry and confusion.
5. Just be with them.
Don't hover, try to cheer them up, argue, try to 'get a rise out of them,' or ask them 'talk about it.' Cognitive processes are slowed, and emotionally, they're in conflict. Udner those circumstances, it's difficult to talk. It's hard to conenct with people, even best-beloved ones, when you're clinically depressed--hard to maintain eye-contact and to follow long sentences and thoughts. A metaphor I use is play lacrosse with them, don't face off with them on the football line.
Be 'around' them, not 'in their face.'
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Don't put them in a positoin that would arouse emotions. Celebrations, holidays, receiving gifts, or a long discourse on foreign policy all require a level of involvement the depressed person is not capable of.
7. Be grounded and stay cnetered yourself. Remnid yourself of your love for them that will endure "even that."
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When the person beigns to heal is a wonderful time for them to have a coach.
Susan Dunn is a personal and professoinal life coach, and author of the hot new ebook "Secrets to Marketing Prof. Services Online (on her web). Email her for FREE ezine, 100% FREE.
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